Is Adulting Really That Hard?

Hey Simplifiers,

Ever heard the saying, “Adulthood is the worst hood”? It’s a classic because, well, it’s kinda true.

Being an adult is like riding a rollercoaster—one moment, you’re on top of the world, and the next, you’re wondering why you ever thought you could do this. It’s easy to look around and think everyone else has it all figured out, but the truth is, we’re all just winging it.

Our friend Rue from Adulting for Life shared her perspective on the ups and downs of growing up, and it hit home. She reminds us that adulting isn’t about making it look easy; it’s about finding peace in the chaos. Let’s dive into some highlights from her experience and see how we can all learn to embrace the good, the bad, and the “what even is this?” moments of adulthood.

The Good Times: When Adulting Feels Manageable

There are those sweet moments when adulting doesn’t feel like a constant battle—when you’re crushing your savings goal, your space is clean, and life just makes sense. It’s those times when you’re riding high, and nothing can knock you down. In these moments, it’s easy to feel like you’ve finally got this whole grown-up thing under control.

📝 Quick Action Tip: Take a moment to recognize your wins, no matter how small. Did you clean your room? Cook dinner instead of ordering out? These small actions add up and give you the momentum to keep going.

The Bad Times: When Adulting Feels Like Climbing a Mountain

But then there are the tough days. The days when getting out of bed feels like an Olympic sport, and every little thing seems like a massive challenge. Rue talks about how these moments can make you feel like you’ve regressed—like all your progress has vanished. It’s okay to feel this way, but remember: you’ve faced hard times before and came out stronger.

📝 Quick Action Tip: When you’re stuck in a low, try to connect with someone. Even just a text can be a reminder that you’re not alone in this.

Finding Your Neutral: The Key to Managing the Highs and Lows

Rue’s approach? Stop chasing happiness and start looking for peace. Happiness is fleeting, but finding a sense of neutrality—where the highs don’t feel too high and the lows aren’t too low—can help you feel more grounded. Life’s a wave, and learning to ride it instead of fighting it makes all the difference.

📝 Quick Action Tip: Set small, manageable routines that help you feel grounded, like a morning coffee ritual or a weekly phone call with a friend. Stability in the little things can make the big things feel less overwhelming.

Adulting Isn’t Easy—But You’re Not Alone

So, how easy is adulting? It’s a mixed bag. But finding peace in the little moments, connecting with others, and showing up for yourself even when it’s hard can make the ride a bit smoother. Rue’s journey is a reminder that we’re all figuring it out, one step at a time.

Before You Go:

What’s one part of adulting that feels especially tough for you right now? Hit reply and share—I’d love to hear your story and support you in finding your balance.

Until next time, remember: we’re all in this together, and you’re doing better than you think. 🖤✨